My Name Is Classic, And I Gotta Problem…

As Adrian Monk would say: here’s the thing. At least for the past five days. My second cousin, a woman of 34 by the name of Violet Herring flew into DFW airport from California less than a week ago, and into our lives indefinitely. Do not inquire of exactly how the decision was considered and made in less than 48 hours, for I can assure you my reply with be anything but grammatically and logically coherent.

Oh, bother, it feels like forever and a day since my last blog posting.

I’ve decided that every other week I am having Heather Madame steal my laptop, so that I will not be tempted to spend perfectly good hours of my time sitting in front of a computer screen when far more productive tasks can be accomplished. The first two days were notably difficult and, as with any bad habit, the third day was the worst. My mind kept jumping into the same endgame for a task:

Notes:

“Oh! I know! I’ll take notes on my laptop!

Reading:

“Oh! I know! I’ll go to Google Books on my laptop!”

Communication:

“Oh! I know! I’ll just send them an e-mail…on my laptop!

I dreaded the day when I would find myself feeling dependant on tech, my thoughts turning to it to complete a task I can easily accomplish with a pen and paper, the library, or my very own vocal chords. The dark night when I would look in some nearby reflective surface and see a *cue horror music* ordinary, tech-obsessed teenager! And yet, there I sat at my desk, staring with a mild feeling of disorientation and helplessness at the absence of the electronic matter known as the netbook laptop computer. But, indeed, I am taking decent measures to remedy my addiction.

Unfortunately, ’tis nearing 11:00, and I find I’m rather tired. And so, until next time,

–Classic/Hannah-Elizabeth

Off Of My Teeter-Totter

     You know when you’re on a teeter-totter with your best friend, and somewhere along the game of ups and downs and back again, the two of you for a moment allow each other to sit at even length, perfectly balanced, perfectly calm? Or that zen-like still moment when you first open the blinds early in the morning? The sun caressing your face in an instant, lingering and warming your skin, and for a moment, all is quiet, all is calm, all is still.

I don’t like feeling off-balance from my teeter-totter of research or my sunshine of delving into depths of information. And yet, so easily, even spending too much time with other humans, I find that I have fallen off of the gentle and sure balance of knowing that I am who I should be. I’ve said it many times, in many ways, to many people, and even to my trusty little leather notebook I scribbled the words:

     I feel as though who I am meant to be, is who I am when I am in pursuit of the truth, of answers.

But more than that, it’s when I’m pursuing information in and of itself. When it’s just me and my books and my piles of chicken-scratch notes. Why is it so easy for me to fall away from that state of self? Here I am, off of my teeter-totter.

I think this moment, as I’m writing this, is one of the reasons I so entirely love writing, love blogging, love WordPress.

Because this is a place where one can go and document a flicker in time that says, “I’m not okay right now, and this is how my heart feels.” And then the next public journal entry smiles softly and nods while quietly speaking, “I’m going to be okay, it’s alright.”

Talk to ya’ll soon,

–Classic/Hannah-Elizabeth

Talk Therapy

My life is currently surrounded by therapy. My father is in anger management, my mom is an aesthetician, and I am going to be a psychiatrist. Never placing aside the therapy of talking with Heather Madame, though when it comes to the role of patient and therapist the roles are comfortably constantly changing.

About a month or so ago I finally convinced my mom to let me see someone about my anxiety. The bad news is that the someone I was able to see wasn’t a therapist, it was a naturepathic doctor. I remember being impressed at first at the modern and professional appearance of the place from the outside, it looked like a stylish two-story office building. When we stepped in we were met with sparkling granite floors, light grey walls and complete and utter stillness in the air. Our steps echoed as we made our way to the doctor’s office. As we sat in the waiting room, I was convinced an attack would hit me (after a while one starts recognizing the signs from the room suddenly feeling distant and an indecisive heartbeat), I told my mom I had to use the ladies room and the receptionist directed me to one down the hall. I kept finding myself shaking my head, perhaps from denial, perhaps that little kid in me insisting I don’t wanna go, I don’t wanna go! I walked over to the sink and washed my hands longer than necessary, my every move, breath and step echoing. As I dried my hands I realized they were shaking. I don’t wanna go, I don’t wanna go… I felt like crying for a moment, but a quick glance in the mirror made me straighten up and toughen up. Funny how reflections do that. I’ve been furious and yelling before and one flick of the eyes to a mirror or reflective piece of glass and I was silenced. And we’ve all been crying when we have caught view of ourselves, fighting (and, for some of us, surrendering to) the impulse to throw or cover the surface, blinding ourselves of how others might see us.

About a minute after returning to my seat the doctor’s door opened and a tanned, large, rather round woman walked out wearing a lab coat.

“Sorry about the wait, please, come in. I’m Dr. Sanchez.”

After sitting down in her office she explained who she was and advertised an AM radio program she hosts. Her office smelled of B.O. She asked basic questions about my eating habits, repeatedly expressing approval at my homemade-dominated diet. She then had me fill out a piece of bright yellow paper entitled “Is It A Yeast Infection?” I kept waiting for the stepping onto the scale, the listening of the heart, the checking of blood pressure and the usual doctor looking me directly in the eye and talking to me because it was I, not my mother, who was the patient. But instead her and my mother spoke about the benefits of eating healthy and what a shame it is that America is going downhill. They chatted for a while, making the appointment go over by 30 minutes (to which the doctor said that she would ‘let us off’ without having to pay for the extra time used) she suggested a list of supplements and sent us off. Only once did they directly discuss my panic attacks, it was also the only time I was able to speak directly about my anxiety.

“Can you do it?” I surprised myself by asking my mom, “I don’t think I can talk about it without breaking down.”

She shrugged and looked uncomfortable, “I don’t remember that much.”

I cleared my throat, though I could feel a lump forming. For six months I had been waiting to tell someone who could help me exactly what happened. I explained the first attack in church and the one the following week, along with the dissociation and feelings of general anxiety, periods of agoraphobia and the nightly sense of impending doom. Within three minutes I had explained everything, though, as I expected, at the end the waterworks had started up. My mom joined in to give her side as to why she didn’t take me to the ER when I had my first attack. I had been sobbing and begging her to take me to a doctor that day to tell me what happened, but once I could breathe normally she became very irritated very fast, glancing around the foyer of the church as we stepped back inside, knowing that social appearances are too important to me to make a scene.

“I know she thinks I didn’t handle it the right way…” My mom explained, “But a doctor would just write a prescription and send us away, and it would cost a fortune-”

Cue sob.

Dr. Sanchez looked over, she too now entirely unsure of what to do. She started talking to my mom with clear intent of me hearing it, “You know, that is right, a doctor wouldn’t have been any good. Modern doctors now have forgotten the art of healing.” To which my mom added another bit and Sanchez had another turn. I had gotten out my handkerchief and tried in vain to make the detestable tears stop.

“Do you wish we hadn’t come?” My mom asked as we pushed through the double-glass doors to the outside world.

“It’s too late to do anything about it now.” I said, feeling drained, helpless and betrayed all over again after reviewing my attacks anew and due to the river I had just cried. She just stared at me as the car pulled up, uncharacteristically silent.

Heather Madame has an aunt that happens to be in the nurse profession. After sending her a timeline and a long list of my symptoms she confirmed what I had suspected this entire time. My mental problems began two years ago, in the first mobile home (also when bulimia made its first fierce comeback), and have simply sprouted and manifested in increasing ways ever since. My physical symptoms are all psychosomatic. I remember when I became rather desperate for a therapist, and my symptoms became more extreme. It was only when I thought about why my symptoms were suddenly worsening that I realized that something in me was reacting to my want to see a therapist, that I know I have things I want to talk about, to discuss with an actual doctor – at least the brand of doctor I know I need.

The reason for any of my blogs is so I can be completely honest and have this outlet for everything, because I have so desperately needed it. WordPress has become a safe haven. Blogging has helped me keep my head, writing and reading what strangers and friends have to say has given me new perspectives on my own life, and more than once has redirected a choice I was going to make. I want to remain honest here. That’s right, ya’ll, Classic is a bit of loon.

Yesterday I received my mineral supplements, and I’ve officially started on the regime. It can be slightly inconveniencing, and I tell you that a homeopathic cure is using a stick to unlock a door. I know it won’t work, because minerals cannot silence the past two years, and it can’t erase the fear, the anxiety and the helplessness felt the past two years. My plan at this point is to save up for a few therapy sessions on my own and go to whomever I need to. Heather Madame has stood by me and will provide any transportation I can’t get myself. Again I thank God for her; truly, everyday.

Here’s to the day of the talk and the cure.

–Hannah-Elizabeth/Classic

French And 5K

“Perhaps we should try to introductions again?” I suggested. Heather Madame nodded and sat upright on the bench on the back patio of the library. I closed the French conversation guide and followed suit.

Bonjour,” She began for the fifth time.

“Or salut if it’s a friend,” I reminded her.

Oui. Salut...wait…”

We both started laughing. “If I’m just meeting you than why would we have the friend greeting?”

“Yeah, that would be rather odd.”

We referenced back to the little handbook again and for no reason again suddenly sat upright.

“Okay,” Heather said, folding her hands in her lap and dramatically flipping her head to the right, “Two strangers meeting in a posh french cafe!” She whipped her head back around, her honey-shaded hair flipping back over with a suspicious, suave look on her face.

Je m’appelle…” My name is…I thought for a moment, “Marc Anthony!”

Heather broke into chuckles again before returning to composure. I continued:

Comment vous appelez-vouz?” What is your name?

“Cleopatera! Common allez-vous?” How are you?

Tres bien, merci! Et vous?” Very well, thanks! And you?

Tres bien, merci.  Ca va?” Very well, thanks. How is everything?

Ca va.” Everything is fine.

We paused for a moment, empty of anything but bare-essential introductory dialogue from our first french study session in both of our lives. She suddenly grinned and started singing the french part to “Labelle” by Lady Marmalade before we both started laughing again.

We woke up early this morning for cross-training (we’ve decided to dedicate the Summer to getting fit and ready for the 5K in Fort Worth this February, which is going to be one of the first things slashed off of our 20 Before 20 List). Thursday was our first official day of 5K training, and what  pitiful sight we were; huffing and puffing and struggling to take oooonnnneee mmooorreeee ssstepppp. All the while middle-aged men and women (and upper-aged while I’m confessing my lack of jogging skill) passed us up like a hot-rod against a tricycle in mud. Today wasn’t much better.

“Hannah,” Heather said as a group of grey-haired women chatted and sped past us, “We’re being passed by the walkers!”

“Well,” I said as I shook my head in shame, “It’s not as bad as that snail that passed us up a half-mile back.”

Tomorrow we are leaving earlier than usual (around 6:30AM) to get to the park early so we’ll have enough time to stop by our favorite Cafe in the downtown before another couple of hours of french.

Au revoir, a tout a l’heure!

Classic/Hannah-Elizabeth